Why it is important that men (too) moan in bed
The frown, the grimace, the body rigid, the hands buried in your waist as if there was nothing else to hold on to in the whole world.
And, in a few seconds, her mouth half-open, her gaze lost, her pulse through the roof and her hips contracted.
Yeah, he's come and it's been wonderful.
UNSPLASH
I think few things turn me on as much as seeing a man in full orgasm. He is for me a self-timer.
Like if he moans or gasps since we started warming up.
Moaners (to name those who express their pleasure beyond a heavy breath) are an endangered species.
Most of the millennials of my generation, brought up on basic straight porn, are rather low-key.
They have received a strong message from erotic films: you, as a man, must be rude, give it a shot, spank it, make her scream with pleasure until she nails you. You will be able to enjoy, yes, but in a silent way.
And it's not because men have a deeper vocal range and are biologically incapable of moaning (as I've read somewhere) or because only among us there are scandalous women.
Watching any random porn scene in which a man and a woman are having sex gives us the explanation.
If we take into account that mainstream erotic films -the popular ones- are products designed mostly for a heterosexual consumer, the last thing he wants is shots of a man beyond a glancing penis that goes in and out.
The actor's face is rarely seen or heard. Just the opposite of what happens with the actress, the protagonist of the close-ups both for her face and for her genitals.
So with little sex education, many tend to imitate what happens in fiction in their intimate lives. So it's more likely that by taking note of the scenes he's been masturbating to since his teens, he'll reproduce the silent behavior.
Yes, letting out the occasional snort, but not much else.
What this does in the long run is that many men develop a negative association when it comes to making noises in bed.
While they naturally assume that it is the woman who has to have a more similar reaction to what they have seen (when many of us do not become sopranos).
Porn aside, there's something we need to remember. In bed, each gesture is a feedback.
A hair pull can mean “not that way”, a push “give me more”, and a moan “you have no idea how much I'm loving this so don't stop”.
And it works both ways, so expressing yourself with both your body and vocal cues helps let the other person know if you're enjoying the practice or even nearing orgasm.
So when in doubt, friend, moan, express yourself and enjoy it, because in addition to serving as a guide, it excites us.
Duchess Twolips.
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